我~~每天都很勤奮的…… 來這裡看看信...寄寄信…

看到有人回信，我....快樂極了∼

辛苦發的信只希望大家粉快樂！

但是有些人只會看信...不會回信...嗚..嗚..嗚..

讓我心情跌到谷底...覺得世界是灰暗的...

寄出去的信有如石沉大海......黯然惆悵....

但是沒關係...我還是會尋找好的文章...好的信件

雖然有些信件內容不是很營養，有些像是惡魔--色鬼所寄的...

但是偶爾我寄的信件也會客串天使的角色

讓您感受到 我的窩心...貼心...細心-- 以及溫馨的關心...關愛...關懷...

祝福您跟我一樣... 每天吃的飽飽...睡的好好，那就是幸福啦∼∼

Merry Xmas!
Got a pair of boots from hubby and trainers from in-laws,sister-in-law gave me a nice cup and a bottle of cleansing facial wash.
No white Xmas though it was snowing a few days before.Built a snow man yesterday,just a tiny one as the snow was wet and icy,so was extremely cold.
Feeling kind of lonely and depressed as it's also Shane's birthday and I can't be there to be with him.
Missing the partying in Singapore and the laughter,the surprise Christmas presents,the good food,most important,the company of good friends.

家有笨猫

小姑养了两只猫
一只叫Charlie，一只叫Lola
Charlie是一只把家里当旅馆的猫，常常玩失踪，好几个月不回家，每次回来都是很肥，应该它有另一个主人把它照顾得很好，它已经有超过半年没回来了。
Lola是一只很笨的猫。人家养的猫会捉老鼠Lola好像怕外面的老鼠会冻死，常常把它们带进家里来。有时候还会杀了老鼠，小鸟然后把它们的尸体带进来。
有一次小姑在早上睡醒发现一只死老鼠在她床上，可以想象哪有多恐怖，一整晚跟死老鼠共眠！
另外一次是我在准备早餐的时候 ，Lola带了一只死鸟进来放在我脚旁害我差点踏到!
笨猫！

来这里之前
整个人圆圆
现在我在53公斤以下,
27寸的牛仔裤全部变成了低腰裤
常常要一面走一面拉上来
每天吃的东西，尤其老公不在的时候，热量不会超过1300卡路里
早上一杯奶茶加两片digestive biscuit（每片70卡路里）
午餐吃水果或薯片（一包137卡路里）
晚餐喝汤加正餐，有时还吃甜品
尤其现在天气那么冷，老公又不在家
除了吃东西和做家务，我总是在在被窝里边看土豆边织毛衣
喝多点热水保温

没工作，出门就要消费
这里没什么朋友，没什么社交生活
你们所认识的雪渐渐的消失了
连刚刚认识的织毛衣的‘朋友’也注意到雪的笑容少了
脸变小了
这是好事还是坏事？

在这里很像废人
没有贡献，除了煮饭和家务
在这里白吃白住，潜意识的吃得少了
对美食有深爱好的雪来说，真得很痛苦
这里的酱油，酱清都是甜的，味道跟我们的不同
家婆不喜欢吃大蒜，家里也不能煮，所以吃的东西没什么味道
这里的中餐完全为了了老外的口味而改变了，连chinese takeaway/restaurant 的食物都很令我失望
我常煮饭但使用的米是Basmati Rice 而不是我熟悉的泰国香米，煮法也不一样。我们用泰国香米只要加水就行了，Basmati要先加奶油炒香，再加水和盐去煮。

很烦！
已经早上2点了，雪很累但是还是恨清醒
好久没有好好的睡觉
有老公在的时候， 雪睡得比较好虽然不能一觉到天亮，但是至少不会熬夜
每当老公去上班，雪就变熊猫，
睡不着，
因为孤独，
因为冷

明天老公要去上班了
这一去又是两个星期
雪又要一个人度过这漫长岁月

现在已经是冬天了
今天的温度是3.5度
非常的冷
我的大雄不在我的身边的两个星期，我看我会冷死

星期五，我们去了Glasgow
很喜欢这个城市
大都市，很多购物商场，很多不同国籍与种族
这里的人很友善，在pub里面喝酒会莫名其妙被邀请加入别人的party
满好玩的
这里的clubbing恨棒，很多人这样说，虽然这次没有机会去clubbing，但是看到很多club外面打排长龙，应该很不错！

这次去Glasgow是为了看老公的偶像The Skids
70年代的他们很红，很多粉丝从英国各地来观赏表演
老公在网上认识了其他粉丝所以约在星期六中午聊天喝茶
一大班40岁以上的男女（除了我外）为了他们的偶像集聚一块，讨论他们的偶像，为什么喜欢他们等等，分享与炫耀他们的收藏，很多人还穿着有他们照片，团名的衣服，老公也穿了

演唱会的名称是Homecoming Live 2009
整个项目有大概9各不同表演者
The Clyde Auditorium
22:30 DEACON BLUE
21:55 LLOYD COLE
21:20 THE SKIDS
20:45 JAMES GRANT
20:15 KEVIN MCDERMOTT
19:45 MIDGE URE
19:15 THE BLUEBELLS
18:55 TOMMY REILLY
18:20 HUE AND CRY
18:05 RED HOT CHILLI PIPERS
大多数都是自弹自唱，顶多两个人表演
但是到了The Skids出场的时候
现场马上热了起来
大家又吹口哨，又鼓掌，显然看到他们的偶像很兴奋
就像老公一样，为了这个表演，他期待了很久，还驾车来回7小时
看一下他们的表演把！
http://www.bbc.co.uk/scotland/music/finalfling/artists/the_skids/

这里的大型演唱会不像亚洲的那么讲究舞台设计和效果还有服装
觉得他们在乎的是才艺
昨晚的演唱会，最便宜的票都要30英镑
表演嘉宾穿着t-shirt,jeans也有些穿西装的,抱着guitar就开始表演起来了

我们昨晚没看完全部的表演
因为最终目的是The Skids
但是我有观赏前几场的表演，真得很不错
昨天老公很兴奋，因为表演后The Skids特地去跟老公和他的朋友坐下来喝酒，聊天，这是老公第二次跟他们近距离接触，我也跟粉丝与团员和家眷聊天喝酒，昨天很多人请喝酒，非常 high.他们非常亲民，没有架子，其中一个年长的团员看我有点微醉，就叫男生们不可以再灌我，还叫老公要好好照顾我，或许在那里我年纪最小也是唯一的亚 洲人吧！

觉得结婚后，什么都不一样了
深爱的，为他而嫁，离乡背井的那个人变了
还是，他根本就是这样的人
只是被爱所蒙蔽的雪乎裂了

快4个月了到现在都没有工作
身上的钱都用光了
现在什么都用老公的
佣人的工钱还没给
孩子的学费也还没付
不方便跟老公拿，毕竟现在他已经在照顾我了
孩子也不是他的，叫他付很不公平也没道理

在一起那么多年，昨天才知道原来老公会打桌球
人生中有很多第一次
跟老公也有很多
昨天，我们第一次一起去Amusment Arcade.叫做珊瑚岛但是这里没有郑惠玉也没有李南星
我们一起进鬼屋，一起玩游戏，但是老公不玩电玩，只玩吃角子游戏
有点小感动，因为老公不是那种会玩小孩子游戏的人，很意外他肯跟我进鬼屋。
虽然昨天晚上为了一些事情吵得很厉害，睡觉也不讲话
但是今天早上起来就没事了
如果昨天吵架的时候发小姐脾气，说了不该说的负气话
今天应该狠糟糕吧？
老公从来不会道歉，但是早上带我去吃Mcdonald，我吃Hot Cakes with Sausage,他吃Big Breakfast. 午餐我们去一间至少有30年历史的连锁餐厅吃，老公还为我点了Pancakes with maple syrup and ice cream.
或许他还有大家认为我很好哄，带我去吃东西我就会原谅他。
其实两夫妻吵架，吵了就算了，不要放在心里也不要给对方脸色看。所谓床头吵架床尾和。早上起来要见面，晚上睡在同一张床，因为吵架而给对方脸色看，闹久了，误会更深，怨气更多，反正他都用他的方式道歉了，何不大大方方的接受，两个人又开开心心的在一起？

偶像剧里的流星雨是骗人的
哪里来那么多流星？
据说今晚会有流星，老公就带我去看
老公把我包得像木乃伊，自己只穿了件外套就拿着手电筒，带着我去后山看流星。
在这种时候，通常会激起我对他的爱，更提醒我为什么当初会选择她
现在的温度很低，因为冬天了，但是还没下雪
今天大概6度，老公找个没有那么多风的地方让我站，自己也站到我面前帮我挡那寒冷的风，两个傻瓜抬头看着天空，等着看流星，我的颈项好酸，老公跟我聊天，偶尔摸我的鼻子，待了大概半个钟头老公就要收工，因为我的手和鼻子太冷了。
虽然看不到流星很失望但是心里很温暖。
回家窝在火炉旁，喝着热茶吃着巧克力，躺在老公怀里看电视也是一种享受

Asia and UK banking practices

I just tried opening a personal savings banking account with Abbey and the application was rejected because I have no record of credit references.
Now,what are they talking about??I have just moved here for 3 months, what credit reference do they want? I am not asking for a loan or applying for a credit card, I just need a savings account where my salary can be deposited when I get a job!
In Singapore and Malaysia, you go to the bank, they serve you and the account is opened immediately as long that you bring the required documents.
However, here in UK, you have to make an appointment to have the bank advisor to help you with the account opening and once the paperwork is done, they will write to you to inform you whether the application is approved.
In Asia, if you were to inform the bank that you have a million dollars to invest/deposit into an account with them, they would wine and dine you, even go all the way to send someone to attend to you personally at your convenience.
However, in UK and probably the rest of Europe, they will probably want information on how and where and when you got this sum of money. No doubt that this is a precaution against money laundering but it definitely makes life very difficult.
Now, I have been advised to go to Lloyds or HSBC where they have a special account for new immigrants to UK but the admin.charges is about 5,6pounds per month!

来这里之前
完全没有心理准备说需要做廉价劳工
雪那么难过应该是因为少了心理准备吧！

家里的暖气坏了
这里的蓝领人士比白领赚得多，也比白领受尊重
今天打电话给某修理暖气的专业人士，既然要等到星期二才可能有时间来看看
这几天好冷，昨天晚上暖气就坏了
雪穿着长袖睡衣和长裤加睡袍再加藻袍，然后盖两条被才勉强睡得着
还好老公星期一回来了，但是我还要忍受3个晚上的天寒地冻

I'm thinking that, now that I've hit my 30s (ok, I've been in my 30s for a decent while), it's natural for me to go through a third-life crisis at least once a week. Where should I be? What should I be doing? What more is there to life? What's it all about, anyway?

I have to say that I have never been especially ambitious in life. I've never needed to be the top of the heap, never yearned for fame. Money, well... who doesn't want that? This lack of ambition, however, is a double-edged sword, as I've never had anything pushing me in a certain direction.

What do I know? Well, I've never been afraid to explore and move around, although, the older I get, the more I think I really ought to settle down and I did, Twice. I can't help but think, though, that all this moving around has done me good. It's made me very open-minded about new situations. The only problem is that I yearn for something different all the time.

I also know that I've always liked solving problems, organizing events, writing articles, and meeting people. Cooking, traveling are my passion and the favourite is being with my hubby, doing things together that we both like. Being together, just the two of us, quality time.

Anyway, so what am I saying? Well, I think it'd be cool if we could just meet people and trade jobs for a day. Like, constant secondment, a little of this and that here and there. I suppose that would mean that long-term projects would need to be put on hold, and I'd never want to leave anyone hanging. I just like change now and then.

Some countries give you the opportunity to take a career break to try something else. Sometimes, these breaks last a couple of years. I'd take that. My only problem is that I'd want a break every few years. I'm sure there would be a limit.

At this point in my life, I think I'd like to try:

* being a mother again! I have been praying hard for it and every month,when I need to reach for a sanitary pad, the pang in my heart hurts.
* having a satisfactory job, I mean job and not career, something that will bring in at least some money for me!
* bringing a project from sheep to sweater
* running a B&B
* writing my own biography - friends been encouraging me to do that for years but 1) I don't know where to start 2) I'm lazy but seriously, where and how to start?Can someone give me advice?
* a travel writer, but for seaside retreats, weekend getaway for family or romantic getaway for couples
* an event planner with a team of people


I suppose life takes its own turns, and I should just wait and see what happens. The more proactive thing would be for me to find a goal and work towards it, but that, grasshopper, is the problem. My only goals in life are peace, mental stimulation, and a good laugh daily. Believe it or not, it's the last requirement I have the hardest time with. It's really easy to slip into melancholy.

The rub - wanting what I have right now. In Soak Up the Sun, Sheryl Crow said,

It's not getting what you want
It's wanting what you've got.

Which reminds me of something else - I wish I knew how to look as good on a surfboard as she does!

So, struggle on I will, but not without wistful gazes into the past and into the future.

非常想念日本餐
嫩滑的生鱼片
这里的不好吃也很贵
在这里，没有朋友，去clubbing都是跟老公去,两个人真的很闷，喝着饮料，看人家在玩。

想念跟大家去玩
开开心心在一起的日子
St James，Sportsman的欢乐时光
$8誉满邡的美味套餐，一大班一起吃晚餐的感觉真好
20多个人在Bintan为我庆生，两个小瓜也玩得很开心，大家都晒到烧焦还差点回不来
然后又一班人去Bintan,喝了太多酒让你们看到了另一个雪
十多个人一起去Bangkok,在地铁里，还有Paragon的疯狂让人家以为我们在拍片！吃了很多很多东西，拍很多照片，笑到肚子痛。真的非常的好玩，很快乐
8个人去Hatyai，拍了很多照片，去了很多地方，吃了很多东西，当了一天的皇帝，还有人很可怜，一个吐到乱七八糟，另一个还被脱裤子。
一整巴士的人去Sibu，潜水，吃东西，在海边给浪打
去Kukup吃海鲜，玩游戏，聊天
去Batam吃东西，购物
在家亲自下厨为你们准备火锅，鸡贩，炒虾面，面粉糕，家庭便饭等，记得最多人的一次是妮子的21岁生日，将近50人,我的屋子爆满！
很多很多的美满回忆

在这里，让没有娘家的雪更无助
人家夫妻吵架，受到委屈，没回娘家还可以去朋友家窝几天
雪只能默默地哭但是还要人家面前假装没事
强颜欢笑，晚上还是同睡一张床
老公不是浪漫的人，做错事也不会道歉
常常以为雪只是多愁善感，哭了就没事
很多时候虽然雪躺在老公怀里，等老公睡沉了
眼泪就会默默地掉下来，老公也没发现我在哭
有时候当他知道我哭，心情不好，他认为是因为大姨妈！
别说谈心，连个聊天的对象都没有，工作也找不到
雪感觉很孤独，无助

这个星期每天都跟老公去钓鱼
走好远的路，爬上爬下，累！

原来因为鱼的数量减少了
为了保护与维持数量，今年不管你钓到什么鱼，有多大条
都要放生！！
瓦靠！那么钓来干什么？还要走那么远，最近天气又冷，常下雨，常常要走烂泥巴路去荒山野岭钓鱼，晕！

这几天因为家婆有约，为了不要因为准备晚餐而赶时间，我就说晚餐由我来准备好了。今晚，我准备了lamb kebabs，大家都喜欢吃，太好了。
明天晚上打算煮酱油鸡，星期五煮beef stew with ale,很期待回新国的时候煮给你们吃，

没有工作的日子真难过
老公不在家的时候就是帮忙家婆做家务
每个星期打扫屋子一次
最近很多落叶，常常要整理花园
和家婆轮流准备晚餐

老公在的时候，也是一样忙家务
但是除了准备晚餐还要准备早餐
然后吃了早餐就是要出发去钓鱼
这里钓鱼有季节性的，下个月一号开始不能钓鱼了

今天晚上，时钟会向后一个小时
所以与你们的时差距是8个小时，不是7个小时

昨天的晚餐准备了蘑菇鸡肉汤，还有肉丸意大利面，还烘了奶油蛋糕
在这里3个月，常常做饭，尝试很多不同佳肴
厨艺是进步了，西餐学会了不少
大家都很喜欢hungarian goulash,beef daube等
还在学习别的佳肴

3个月了，工作还是没有消息
申请了很多份工作都沉入大海，我每几天都会收到email或者邮差叔叔会交给我‘情书’。
亲爱的XXX小姐，
谢谢你寄来你的履历表，但是我们收到太多申请信件，所以你的申请我们这次无法接受，谢谢你对我们的公司的兴趣。。。

这里，如果你的年薪不超过37，400，那么你只要还20%的tax,但是如果你的年薪超过37，400的话，你的tax就是年薪的40%了！！超高！
所以，为什么这里有那么多人受到政府照顾的?没工作可以claim unemployed benefits,也可以帮孩子claim child support benefits，残缺人士可以claim disability benefits,没地方住，政府帮你房租让你有地方住。
记得看过一个报道，一个Ghana来的男人，来了英国后，以asylum seeker status获准居住在英国。没工作，政府养他，给他地方住还让他免费读大学！后来，他在Ghana的妻子也来了，本来说好他们会找工作养活自己，谁知道 孩子一个接一个生下来，妻子没办法工作因为要照顾小孩，据说老公也没找到合适的工作，然后他们住的房子太小,3个房间！！！所以要求更大的房子，他们找到 了一间价值2百多万的屋子，每个月租金要2千多！！政府帮他们付。难怪有那么多战乱国家的人民要来英国了，像他们所说的，英国的福利好，语言沟通也没问 题。这也是为什么那么多高薪的国民要到外国工作了，每年要纳税在至少40%，倒不如去外国工作还可以看世界！

Finally, got to talk to Shane and Sean on webcam and after they had downloaded Skype, the network is so much better than MSN.We try to do a video conference daily usually before 5pm(+8 GMT) before their dad gets home and it'd be so inconvenient to talk.
Nothing on the job front yet. Applied for so many jobs in Aberdeen, receiving so many emails and letters saying that application is not being considered,etc etc. Now trying Edinburgh and if I get a job there, I'd move.
Hubby is away today for a week, will be home next week for another 2 weeks. Unfortunately, the timing doesn't coincide with my ovulation period, doesn't do me any good.

Hubby went to the Dee for fishing the whole day on Thursday with his fishing cronies and I went to the Stitch N Bitch Club in the evening to meet the ladies. Quite a few new ladies and lots and lots of wool!!!They also brought their pattern books which are very beautiful and a lot of them are very cute and challenging projects like toilet rolls, handbags, there are also crochet patterns for teddies,etc.
Made a Cheese cake on Friday,it's called Chanel. Using crushed digestive biscuits as base, mix egg yolk, cream cheese, whipped cream, lemon grind and juice, gelatine and yoghurt together,pour onto the base,keep in the fridge for 2.5 hours and then we had it on Saturday for Tea.Mum made very nice ham soup using a ham shank and lots of vegetables. For main course, she made beef oxford, yummy!!!!
Today, I'd be preparing the dinner, gonna roast the duck breasts and stir fry some vegetable with oyster sauce.
I'd be alone for a whole week again as hubby is going offshore tomorrow. The payment for the maid's levy is due in a few days,worried.....

From the mouth of Babes

Went for the Stitch N Bitch meeting last night, Lara was sharing a story about her 6 year old daughter. Lara was putting her daughter to sleep and they had the following conversation:
Daughter : Mum, can I not go away to college and live elsewhere when I'm 18?
Mum : Why,dear?
Daughter : Cos I love my bunkbed and I do not want to sleep on other beds.
Mum : But,honey, one day you will get married and I'm sure your husband would not want to sleep in your tiny bunk bed.
Daughter : I do not want to get married, I want to be a lesbian.
Mum (trying to stifle a laugh and keeping a neutrel expression) : Why would you want to be a lesbian?
Daughter : I do not want to share my bed with any men, women smell nicer,like you, men are so smelly, like daddy.
Mum : ........................

My nephew,Finlay, had a slight redness on his 'little brother' one day and his dad applied some medication on it before bringing him to the playground. It was a nice day and there were a lot of kids and parents there. Finlay got on a see-saw and soon he started shouting 'My penis is infected, my penis is infected' You can imagine how embarressed the dad was and the looks that they received from the other people there.

Shane, my younger boy,often suffer from flatulence. He often farted and it's not the odourless kind, probably can bottle it as sort of a smelling salt. Anyway, when he was 4 or was it 5, we were in a crowded lift, suddenly there was this awful odour and everyone covered their nose and looked around them. Shane looked at me and said,' Mum, you farted again, it smelled terrible, told you many times not to do it in public!' Everyone gave me the dirty look and I wished there was a hole for me to sink into.

Alicia, a distant niece was 7 when we were buying chicken in the supermarket and having this discussion.
Me : Do you know where does the chicken come from?
Alicia : From an egg of course!
Me : And then what happened after that and how did it get to the supermarket shelves?
Alicia : The eggs will hatch into chicks and when they grew older, they will become chickens. Then they will be delivered to the Supermarkets where their feathers will shed, head and neck will drop off naturally before they are packed into boxes and arranged on the shelves.
Me : .........................

Happy 4th Month Wedding Anniversary.
Apparently, hubby wasn't big on celebrations nor would he remember. I don't see why I have to remind him.
To him, it's just another day. I wish he would make some effort, go for long walks, go out somewhere,just the two of us. Spend some quality together, do something romantic.
4 months, still in the honeymoon period. Unfortunately, I don't feel bridal nor newly-wedded. Nothing to contribute to the feelings.
Woke up this morning, cooked bacon,eggs and mushroom, did the laundry, cleaned the room, went online to search and apply for jobs,another boring day.

Saturday
Went to a job fair in the morning,not really impressed.Very unlike the ones I've been to in Singapore,less than 15 stands - Army, Police, Navy, Makro, Morrisons, Councils, 2 Universities offering courses and even Herbalife!!
It was really unusual, for me at the very least, the job fairs I've been to had more than 50 stands from various companies as well as schools. The whole fair would normally occupy at least 2 mega halls and not just one small ballroom size place.
After the fair, went to Matthew's, a Chinese supermarket in town, quite delighted that they have a lot of things that I am familiar with, even Chinese Steamer and the wooden steamer. Prices are ok considering that they are imported stuff.Also had some Dimsum at the Manchurian's, very disappointed. Siewmais were too dry and too much flour added, deep fried prawn dumplings were too dry and hard,even the salt and pepper squid was strange,egg battered and deep fried,not the ones I was used to. Hubby had roast pork with noodles, the noodles were too dry and hard. Will not go back after this.
The restaurant was hiring so I spoke to the boss out of curiosity. 6 days a week, off on Wednesdays only, working hours from 10am to 10pm on weekdays and 10am to 11pm on weekends. As I have no experience, they are offering less than 1000pounds monthly! That's absurd, one practically shackled herself to the restaurant and the other question is,how to get home at night?
Went for a walk after the meal, it was really windy,imagine dustbins flying all over the street, I had one my hoodie jacket,a t-shirt underneath and a pair of jeans, thick socks and my puma trainers. It was cold and extremely difficult to walk, when we got to the car, we struggled to get in but the door closed on my leg before I was able to get in, ouch, ouch, ouch!Drove home safely but the wind was bad, nearly pushing us off the road, quite scary.
Had Chinese Tea and the mooncake that Elaine sent with the in-laws, tried 4 different kinds of Chinese Tea and they liked 2 of the varieties. Quite an enjoyable session and would like to do it again soon.
After that, hubby and I went to town to chillout. Nothing interesting at Drummonds and Tunnels, went to Moorings, tons of people, music that was extremely noisy, lyrics that sounded like screeching, people shaking their head and body to the music, the extreme ones - flinging their hair about as though they were in a shampoo commercial, hope they did wash their hair before they came.

Sunday
Cooked bacon,eggs and mushrooms for hubby for breakfast, not to forget 2 slices of toast(butter and marmite) and a mug of Earl Grey Tea of course.
Went to the Cowie for a walk to check the damages the wind had done to the trees. Drove to Stonehaven Beach, parked and ate Fish and Chips while enjoying the afternoon sun. The sun was out so the ice-cream parlour was really busy, people at the beach walking their dogs, with their family for a leisurely stroll, there were wind surfs in the sea of course and a lone man board surfing at the beach.
Made a trip to Somerfields, bought lamb chops and pork escalopes, lucozade, bread, Earl Grey Tea, Eggs, crisps, chocolates for hubby and dad, biscuits for mum, etc etc. Eggs here are pretty expansive, my in-laws are used to having the free-range eggs(the chickens are not confined to cages, get to roam freely,that is very good,the chickens get to exercise at least and their diets are much better than Asia) ,cheapest eggs that I can find are 1.18pounds for half a dozen.!
After we reached home and put away the stuff, proceeded to pick brambles off the bushes along the road, hubby and I had a competition to see who got the most brambles. Needless to say, I got the most!!! Bramble are part of the berry families and they bear fruits near Autumn, around this time.
Therefore, we had mum's turkey as a main course and brambles with ice-cream for dinner.

Monday
Went for a short workshop on book keeping in the morning, turned the lamb chops which I marinated with lemon and fresh mint the night before, went online to do some research on online business, thinking of starting a wool,handicraft and even Asian spices,sauces,cookies trading 'shop'.
For dinner, I prepared pan-fried lamb chops, whipped potatoes with onions, some peas and for dessert, bramble crambles, yum yum!! Hubby love the lamb chops and the dessert, but I find that the lamb chops were not as tender as the ones I got from Asdas previously.
Tomorrow, there's no plan yet but hubby said that he would like to have Bacon and eggs for breakfast, looks like I won't get to laze in bed again:(

Happy Mooncake Festival!
Not much celebration here,no one really celebrate it.
Hoping that hubby will bring me to the Manchurian Restaurant for real Chinese food,they have dimsum and other cantonese menu,look quite authentic but got to try to find out 1st.
There's a job fair in town today, going to take a look to see whether there's anything for me.
Went with hubby and father-in-law for a long drive to Deeside yesterday, got car sick. It was a grey day,very cold and some rain. Wasn't able to enjoy the scenery, had my nose in a novel,trying to fight the nausea, arrived at Ballater Square, puked in the toilet. Left Glen Muick and hubby had to stop along the road just outside a garage for me to puke and then on the way home,in the car,thank god for paper bags.
It's a nice day today, the sun is out, hopefully it won't be so cold in the city.

Happy Childrens' Day!
1st October is Childrens' Day in Asia or rather,Singapore, not sure about the other parts of Asia.
Missing my boys terribly,unable to web cam with them as the web cam was confiscated by my ex and on the one occasion that we managed to do it, the video and sound quality was very very poor. When can I see them?I've no idea, missing Shane especially, wanna hold him in my arms. Have they both grown taller? The little one is bigger or has he lost weight? It's been 2 months since I have last since them and I hope that I get to have a video talk with them tomorrow, Joe, my brother is visiting them this weekend, hopefully,he will bring his laptop so that I can see the kids online.
Cooked beef daube and left it overnight then cooked another 2 hours today, the beef was soft and nice, everyone likes it, I'm glad that everyone enjoyed the dinner.
Tomorrow, we will try to finish the expansion of the shed, another day of cement mixing and brick laying, dinner is at the Bistro down the road, the parents are looking forward to eating there. The Bistro was opened late last year and business has been rather good,. However, it will be the parents' first trip there. Deco is nice, food not bad too.
In the past few days, there's been a few natural disasters in Asia. Tsunami in the Philippines 2 days ago and the 7.6 earthquake in Indonesia today. My heart went out to the people who lost their loved ones. The Tsunami reminded me of the one in 2006 where hubby and I nearly went to Krabi but decided to spend Christmas in the UK instead. We sat there watching footage of the damages and were glad that we were safely at home with the family. The earthquake in Indonesia caused tremors in Singapore and Malaysia, friends in both countries were able to feel the tremors, perhaps it happened so often that most of the are immune! When they feel the shaking,they simply assumed and rightly know that it's an earthquake from Indonesia. Wonder if Singapore or Malaysia really has an earthquake one day, would they be prepared or just simply brush it off as an off-site tremor?

Spent the last two days helping hubby to expand the shed. I've to help to mix the cement and sand together before adding the water and mix again, tough work, my hands are painful and I had a sore back.
In addition, I was bitten by midgies, or mosquitoes. The ones here are tiny compared to the ones at home but they are more lethal in leaving marks. I was bitten on a Saturday and now the marks are huge. red and ugly,not only that,they are very itchy. Hubby said I'm allergic to the midgies. I've them on my face, neck, waist area and even my bum as the jeans I was wearing then was a low waist!
No news on the job front yet, very, very stressed but nothing that I can do, kept sending resumes, applying for jobs,etc.
Going to cook curry chicken for dinner tonight, hubby is going to make tomato soup for starter tomorrow and the main course might be sweet and sour chicken. I am planning to cook beef daube for dinner on Wednesday. Hope they will turn out well.

I'm extremely sleepy and tired today! I guess my time of the month is approaching.
Every month, at this time, I would have mixed feelings.
Relieved as it means that I'm still ovulating, that I'm not menopausal yet. You would wonder why I would worry about this at my age? Well, my mother stopped having her period at 29 or so and her mother at 38 or so. I'm past 29 and in a couple of years, I'd be 38!
I am hoping for a baby and imagine my disappointment when I see the evidence that said otherwise every month.
After reading a lot of articles about trying to get pregnant, I have concluded that I should relax and let nature take its course, by being so anxious, I am adding stress to myself but I certainly have valid reason,don't I?

My lamb chops in mint was good too,I'm glad my father-in-law who was without his dentures was able to eat it. Most importantly, everyone likes it.
It's quite easy to prepare and cook, marinate the lamb chops with lemon juice, grated lemon rind, olive oil and chopped mint leaves the night before,keep them in the fridge. Pan fry them for about 5-7 minutes on each side, serve them with some stir fried shallots, yummy!
Today, I'm not going to the knitting group as a lot of the ladies cannot make it. However, Carolina had invited me and Cassia to her house so hubby will go to Drummonds to listen to the music, amazingly Carolina's hubby is playing at the Drummonds,hmm wonder which band it is.

Hungarian Goulash was a success!
Everyone enjoyed it, I'm delighted. I used the recipe from Delia Smith's cookbook. I like her books as they are easy to understand and the instructions are very clear.
Tonight is lamb loin chops with fresh mint. I've marinated the chops with lemon juice and grated lemon, fresh mint leaves and olive oil last night. The recipe was from a recipe card that I took from Marks and Spencers.
Hubby had a sore eye yesterday and it's quite painful, he claimed it's getting better but then it's still sore. I think he should go to see a doctor but he is such a stubborn man and believe that it will get well on its own. Well,it's his eye, can't do anything about it.
It's a beautiful day,therefore it is washing day.Hubby's job is to remove and put on clean bedsheets and pillow cases. For me, I've to put on the clean duvet cover and put them all to wash ,hang and keep them when it's dried. Kind of enjoyed it as it is part of team work:)
With three weeks off work, hubby and I will be spending time together,fishing and working on the shed, hopefully,make more space in the bedroom. Shipment from Singapore will be arriving soon, have no idea where all the things are going. I'm pretty sure my mother-in-law will make a fuss when the things arrived.,dreading it.

家婆大多数对我都不错
但是老公在家的话就会两母子吵架
老公不在的时候，有时候谈起老公，也会有点小意见
家婆认为我过分让我老公，什么都顺着他，久而久之，老公会习惯而当我的顺从为一个理所当人。也认为我既然可以摆布她儿子待我出外用餐，载我去星期四的织毛衣聚会，等，我应该有本事摆布他做任何东西。真的有点生气，这算摆布吗？ 两夫妻偶尔出外用餐，给自己也给他们一点私人空间，有错吗？星期四的聚会在都市，做公共交通要45分钟，老公没工作的话就接送我，等我的时候也可以自己去听他喜欢的乐队表演。
今天，两母子又吵架，第一次看到老公那么大声说话，老公向来讲话很小声，今天真的吓倒我，看来，他真的很生气。 家婆认为我们自己应该搬出去，自己有个家，但是为什么现在才提起呢？以前我们商量时，家翁要我们全家住在一起，因为我在这里没家人，没朋友，住在这里，我们可以互相照顾，尤其老公一个月有两个星期不在家，我一个人住，家翁不放心所以才要我们住在一起。
但是我担心，这里已经没有空房间了，我们的房间也没什么地方，以后孩子来了，怎么办？家婆要我们搬出去，一方面也是有点私心的，如果我们住在一起，她怕以后我们会要她帮忙照顾孩子。毕竟她已经退休了，想要享清福，而且小姑跟我们住在一起，她一个星期有三，四天要去上课，上几小时，所以会要家婆帮忙照顾他儿子。小姑去进修也是你鼓励的，照顾你的孙子你也要埋怨！
我和老公很早有打算了，以后有孩子，我们自己照顾，我会当全职家庭主妇，所以没想过要她帮忙。 而且，我觉得很奇怪，我认识的爷爷奶奶级人物，不管什么文化，都希望可以全家住在一起，可以帮忙照顾孙子，多点时间陪他们玩，家婆似乎是另类。
如今，只能走一步看一步了。。。。。。。。

说不尽的前男友与前女友

从前在我观念里，前男友与前女友一直是一个‘过去式’的名词，因为冠上了一个‘前’，就觉得它应该是过往的一部分，下属于现在，当然也不和‘现在进行式’ 的恋情有所冲突。但在听闻了太多故事与亲朋好友的个人经验后，我开始觉得前男友与前女友应该被归类于一种……‘阴魂不散’的身分。 因为他们既然没真的离开，也不是确实存在，而是以一种感觉很‘飘忽’的意境，暧昧地留在另一个人的心中，甚至是身边，导致对现在进行式的恋情造成难以预料的影响，就像一颗不定时的未爆弹，我们不知道它何时会爆，更不知道它的杀伤力将有多惊人一样。 多恐怖啊！算是凡走过必留下的一种‘恐怖’痕迹吧！我想。
我个人真的很难理解为什么有些人明明都已经分手了，却不彻底消失，还在那边照三节问候，有时连初一、十五也算在内，表现出一副挺关心对方的样子，分手前都还没这么勤劳咧！ 我觉得，分手的恋人，当然不是完全不能当朋友，但在此之前，请你们先确自己真的只把对方当成‘普通朋友’对待了，甚至是对方也已经把你（你）当‘普通 朋友’对待了，否则就不要自己骗自己做得到，但其实两人的关系却变得比从前更暧昧下明。
尤其是当其中一方交往了新的对象时，这样的模糊关系持续下去，只会 让现任恋人产生不安全感，甚至对他们造成伤害，导致吵闹不休，或者分手。 基本上我是不太相信有人会对自己的男（女）朋友的前男（女）朋友一点都不在乎的，如果知道他们还保持联络、互相关心，现任的情人多多少少都会心存芥蒂吧。所以，既然都已经决定要展开新的恋情，那么就请你们对现任恋人多用点同理心，妥善处理掉前一段恋情吧！
还有那种前一段恋情没分干净，又开始下一段恋情的人，在此我更要大声呼吁——请你们更要发挥一下公德心，拿出你们的道德观来，取决前、后两段感情中，到底谁才是你们真正爱的、想要的，不要两个都有点放不开，周旋在两段感情间纠缠不清，害得前、后任恋人都受害。 如果你们对上一任恋人还有留恋，就请不要再出来害人，像诈骗集团一样和现任情人谈了一场‘跟真的一样’的恋爱，又突然说忘不掉上一任情人，所以要忍痛和现任情人分手的鬼话。 这样谈恋情，真的很不负责，又很伤人。因此，各位在做‘坏事’前请务必三思啊，别以为这世上没有报应喔……嘿嘿嘿……

Hubby will be back tomorrow,looking forward to it.
Planning to cook Beef Ghoulash tomorrow for dinner, hope that it is edible and everyone will like it.
Made chocolate whiskey truffles today using this recipe. It is really easy and I finished making them in less than half an hour. However, they are all misshapes so will not bother putting up a picture this time. My mother-in-law said it is very rich so we can't have this too often. The next time I'd like to use Rum instead of whiskey, might do nut truffles too.

It's a grey day but well,who cares, my other-in-law and I are going to town today. It's shopping day! She's going to Marks & Spencers, I'm going to Poundland and Primark. Need a basket for storage.
Went jogging yesterday, I believe I am really out of shape, chest hurts and tire easily,just after less than 10 minutes. Forced myself to finish 2 km,slow walk of course, before returning home. My legs are complaining today.
It was my mother-in-law's birthday yesterday. Visited Crathes Castle with my in-laws and sister-in-law,had a simple lunch there followed by Korma chicken curry dinner cooked by my sister-in-law for dinner, she even prepared poppadoms, naan bread and baked the birthday cake.
It was a beautiful day,warm and shiny,glad that all of us were able to bask in the sunshine and that everyone enjoyed themselves.
Having a craving for beef ghoulash, will get hubby to drive me to the supermarket to buy the ingredients and get the beef from the butchers when he's back on Monday. Yippee, I'd be able to sleep better upon his return, he's so warm and cuddly and as I'm always cold, he makes a good 'hot water bottle'.
Saw a recipe for chocolate truffles, keen to try making it:)

Went for my knitting group meeting again last night.
Travelled to Aberdeen alone on the bus and reached Aberdeen more than 40 mins later. I think on my last trip from Stonehaven back home,the bus driver probably charged me a return ticket price instead of one way. Anyway, my return ticket to Aberdeen was 4.80 quid.
Walking along the streets of Aberdeen on my own was a new experience, I got to browse the various shops at my own leisure, enjoyed the freedom of browsing through racks and racks of clothes,Primark is amazing, you can get decent quality and design shirts for 1 pound!Here, all your purchases can be returned in 28 days as long that they are in saleable conditions. That's great.Cassia, a lady from the knitting group, is a real bargain hunter and a regular of the chain. Love shopping with her. She's from Houston,very petite, a size 8 and so slim.
Had dinner at Bollywood Tandoori at Union Street, really nice lamb curry.Can't wait to have it again with hubby. A little pricy though.
As a lot of ladies can't make it last night,therefore the turnout was quite small so we left early at 9,35pm, I had to wait till 10.40 for my bus in the cold. Thank god I had my hoodie with me.
The bus ride was very long and kept stopping,turning into various villages.By the time I alighted, it was 11.34pm, the road was dark,almost missed my stop. The walk from the bus stop was about 15 minutes and it was so cold that I was shivering and the road badly-lit. Fortunately, there was a lady who got off the bus together with me and we chatted on the way.
When I reached home, there's lights in the kitchen and the living room, turned out that my mother-in-law was waiting for me,to ensure that I got home safely. She even had the kettle on so that I can have a hot cup of tea. Seriously, after living alone for so many years where I returned to a dark, empty house, what my mother-in-law did was really touching, I felt so welcome,that I was returning to a real,warm home. Thank you,mum. What you did may seem insignificant to you but it did touch my heart. That was something that even my own parents will not do. Thank you,hubby for sharing your lovely parents with me.

回想起自己小时候的事

我小时候就是个夜晚型体质的人，晚上不到十二点是睡不着的，可是因为还是个小学三年级的学生，所以每天晚上九点就会被迫上床睡觉，每次都在床上翻来覆去真是非常痛苦。

但就从那时起，我开始常在睡前“幻想”，因此我变得非常期待晚上九点到我睡着这段清醒时间。例如我曾幻想我是怪盗亚森罗苹，所有人都被我耍得团团转， 名警官、名侦探无一不想捉拿我，却没料到我是个女孩……
我也曾幻想我是冰雪女王，一个人住在冰天雪地里，呵气成云、吐气成雪，某次偶然我隐藏我的能力和身 分，来到人世上……
当我觉得父母不爱我，不关心我的时候，我又幻想其实我是他们的养女，我的亲生父母是名门望族，但是出门的时候，奶妈把我弄不见了，还是失散什么的，让自己好过一点。

很傻，对吗？

真的都是些很荒谬的幻想，但自己却玩得不亦乐乎，现在想一想，长大后会想blog，便是想把自己的感受，经历跟大家分享。

曾经问老公，为什么会想娶我？
他说因为我会照顾他，会煮饭，够独立，他家人和朋友都很喜欢我，
那么爱呢？我问他
他说就是因为爱上我，才会想一起共度下一生
爱与激情会随着时间和生活上的摩擦而淡化
但是两个人的相处方式，对彼此的了解是不会那么容易失去的
他说的没错。。。。。。。。。
对老公，或没有那么干柴烈火，但是对他的依赖总是少不了
生病了，会找撒娇
有好吃的，好玩的会想跟他分享
爱一个人，不要求像电影或小说那样轰轰烈烈
平凡就是一种幸福

雪给你们的印象是什么？

这是雪混得一个论坛所问的问题
现在转载来这里

想请问- 见过雪的人，雪给你什么印象？
没见过雪的人，你猜猜雪的年龄
那天跟网友吃饭，既然被她猜我37岁
晕！

snowysky_gal
发表于 26-3-2008 01:50 PM
是一位很好的聆听者
一个给我很多宝贵建议的大姐姐
一位感性的人
不过身体不太好，时常生病

雪姐。。
要自己照顾身体哦！
还有很高兴认识你！
祝你永远幸福！

鸡蛋糕小鸡鸡
发表于 26-3-2008 01:55 PM

整体上.... 雪 给我的感觉是 小公主型的小女人

喜欢撒骄、喜欢被疼， 喜欢被关怀、........... 总之心智上有点像是长不大的大小孩

还有还有.... 工作上的她可能是很专业又很有责任感

但私生活可能是有够糊涂的咯........ （不是什么事都CALL警察叔叔的）

如果我没猜错的话，如果工作是生活的一部分， 对雪来说， 可能就是 生活是工作的一部分

只有在工作的领域上才可看到精明的雪， 但在生活上无缘只能见到迷糊迷糊的雪

整体感觉而论， 你和我妹是属于同一组人咯！

也就是喜欢照顾人，但自己又很渴望被关怀，上班一条龙，下班一条糊涂虫

很smart 但缺乏 street smart，对不对？

羽枫
发表于 26-3-2008 02:01 PM

嗯~~~真的觉得身子蛮弱的。。。。就跟你的ID一样。。。雪。。脸色总像雪一样的白~
在计划生下一胎之前，切记要把身子养好ho~

不过，虽然身体弱，但办起网聚来，却是一派大家姐风范。。。钦佩下~

还有~~看起来不老啦~~~~

tcs80
发表于 26-3-2008 02:12 PM

雪姐是个坚强却也脆弱的女人 一定要永远保持乐观哦！


fionyeo
发表于 26-3-2008 02:21 PM

觉得你的人很亲切，很照顾身边的人，有什么事都会尽量帮忙，需然和你不多话
可是第一次见面的时候，感觉你会瞧不起人 （不好意思，说出我的感觉而已）
和你相处后就觉得你的人好好

祝你幸福快乐 ，雪姐

梦女
发表于 26-3-2008 02:24 PM

你是需要很多爱的女人。。。很疼爱孩子的妈妈。。。可以很独立，但喜欢依赖，享受被呵护的感觉。。。

和朋友在一起是大剌剌的傻大姐，在爱人面前则是小鸟依人。。。

容易感伤、容易掉泪。。。很爱吃，却也很爱喊肥了。。肥了。。

真是个复杂又简单的女人。。。

Garumon
发表于 26-3-2008 02:33 PM

嗯。。。

其实身边也有很多这样的女性，

在工作上显得很尽责，很有魄力，

一幅比男生更能干的模样，

其实。。。 心底也还是希望有人能宠一宠她关心她。。。

我想。。。 如果学姐身边有一个能让他安心依靠的男人。。。

你也不会见到那一副刻意表现出女强人的学姐了。。

knnbccb123456
发表于 26-3-2008 05:29 PM

非常活泼的妈妈！

虽然有些时侯表示悲观，但乐观很快就来。

为人大方。

最后，你的那个网友应该叫出来让我们把他打死

venus_huihui
发表于 26-3-2008 05:42 PM

一个人的时候很忧郁
很多人的时候很爱玩

开心点
生活更美好

PEACE_TAN1
发表于 26-3-2008 11:30 PM

雪呢？

给我的感觉就是。

你通常给我们看到乐观的一面。悲观的藏的很好，但是有时候不知觉的流露出来。

别人把工作当作生活的一部分，你却把它当作大部分来填补某些东西。

你非常渴望某些东西，但是往往你收到的都不是很够。

一个复杂又单纯，没有事业心却花很多时间在事业上，渴望安稳却又害怕失去自由的女生。

yeephuang
发表于 27-3-2008 12:28 AM

雪姐
开朗好玩，性格直爽，但也有犹豫的一面
吃喝玩住宿问他准没错

xiong8
发表于 27-3-2008 12:45 AM

雪姐：
进得厨房，出的厅堂。。。
温柔体贴。。
有什么心事，找他谈谈就对了

雪姐，好久没见了。。
呵呵~ 还好吧~
多多照顾身体哦~

ENLY
发表于 27-3-2008 02:07 PM

我还记得。。。
前年在SENTOSA的网聚第一次认识你。
你给我的印象是大姐姐一样的照顾大家
虽然你已经身为孩子的妈。
但你给我的感觉就是辣妈
玩得起！~感觉容易相处也很快和大家打成一片。
外表看起来坚强独立的你
但内心有感性的一面
对爱情你勇于表达自己的情感
这点让我很佩服你。。
因为没有多少人可以忠于自己的心。
希望你去新的环境有幸福的未来。

奇妙的缘分
发表于 27-3-2008 05:05 PM

雪姐是个很有能力的性感小女人
给我的感觉是个大姐姐,会给我很多的意见。。。
当我有事请教她的时候,她都会教我如何去分析
是个有点悲观又带点乐观的女人,而且还有个爱她的未婚夫
很快的就要离开我们去英国的好姐姐
祝福你 。。。
一路顺风哦 。。。

妮子
发表于 28-3-2008 09:38 AM

雪姐嘛～

第一次见面是在ａｍｋ的晚餐，就是我在新坛的第一个网聚。
非常感谢帮我庆祝２１岁生日

第一次见面的时候，不相信已经是为人母亲，而且大儿子已经１２岁（没记错吧？）。那时还开玩笑：你有儿子咯？应该是baby吧？哈哈

会保养还是天生丽质？

后来的后来，还爬了雪的心灵写真１，那时候已经有很高很高的楼，看了雪姐２年前到现在的生活，从而更了解雪姐。

后来，还发现会织衣，会煮饭，唱歌选高音的等等。一切都出乎意料。

但是，真的不会照顾自己的健康噢～
要爱自己，才能爱别人～

祝你幸福

san_83
发表于 28-3-2008 11:38 PM

有人出可以个大难题给我。。。
对snow的印象，
矣。。。。。。。。。。。。

简单点，我分几个阶段来讲吧！
刚认识她时，觉得她是是个开朗的乐天派。
好玩又爱闹的个性，根本就不像是两个孩子的妈妈。

去龟咯旅行时，她却是个爱心十足的慈母。
对她的孩子，可说是好的没话说。
根本就是放纵孩子，让他们为所欲为嘛。

后来时间久了，慢慢发现
她乐于助人，也喜欢与大家分享，
还很喜欢用美好的眼睛看这世界。
只能说算是久历风霜的天真女孩。
已经老大不小了，但总是对世界抱有许多憧憬。

mysterydreamer
发表于 29-3-2008 02:28 PM

第一眼 美女~~ 真不相信是兩個孩子的媽了

第二眼 玩女~~很愛玩 一點都沒有 爲人父母 的刻板印象 所以才會舉辦那麽多網聚

第三眼 “閑”妻良母~~很aunty...便宜的東西就lap一堆 閑閑在家沒事做就織毛衣 有很多很多的半成品

你是怎樣的人 ？ 以上每個人所講的已經很清楚交待了囖。~

crab_07
发表于 29-3-2008 11:59 PM

对雪姐没有一面之缘的机会，所以没有第一的印象。
不过网上印象还是有的。
她是个新时代的妈妈，如果不是她说有两个孩子我相信没有懂她是两个孩子的妈。
她是个24孝的妈妈，孩子是她最骄傲的事是吧。
她是个贤妻良母，煮了得，缝衣也行。
她是个尽情享受玩的伴儿，一起疯颠她会奉陪，是吗？
她给我的感觉是幸福小女人，是个因为爱而生的女人。

祝福你幸福快乐、开开心心、要好好照顾身体，健康最重要。
一路顺风！

看着跟老公一起拍的照片
没有那种亲密的感觉
就是以肢体语言来表示他对我的爱
刚才在Facebook看着朋友和他老公的照片，
从她老公的肢体与行动，你就知道她老公很爱她。
老公常常抱她，为她拍美丽的单人照
就算他们夫妻俩跟孩子一起拍照，你还是可以感觉到老公对老婆的爱，亲密，等

老公不明白为什么我那么的没安全感
或许是因为我现在在一个陌生的国度，没有朋友又找不到工作，常常会钻牛角尖
或许看着我们的情侣照，都是我抱他，他只是傻傻的站在我旁边
我曾经看过他和他前女友的合照，他站在女生的后面，双手抱着女生的腰，开心的对着镜头笑
这样的待遇，我6年来都没有
跟他提起，他说我多心了，虽然现在有时候他会在拍合照时抱着我，但是感觉就不对。
当他帮我拍单人照，都是拍风景多过我，就是说是我衬托风景，而不是风景衬托我
曾经看过他帮另外一个女友拍的照片，他拍的好美，很有感觉
但是我。。。。。。。。。。。。。。
心很累，
结婚3个多月，就那么累，日子还长，我走得下去吗？

上个星期天我们出海钓鱼，有9个人去
刚开始都是大家，除了我之外，都有收获
然后我开始钓到迷你沙汀鱼，然后就是鳕鱼了
在这里，钓鱼的时候，钓到鳕鱼一定要超过35cm才可以收，
要不然要放回大海，因为他们怕鳕鱼濒临绝种，所以有特别保护他们
所以，我钓到30cm也一定要还回给大海
看着大家钓得很开心，老公也钓到了2条大鳕鱼
我好羡慕，在想今天会不会钓到鱼呢？
然后，钓呀钓的，忽然间，鱼钩又开始很重了
快点收线，但是没有力气拉，老公就过来帮我拉，我继续收线。。。。。。。。。
看照片，一次两条mackarel也就是我们吃韩国餐的时候的saba fish
非常开心
当天早上在电话里跟乐乐聊天的时候，我跟他说我今天要去钓鱼，他还祝我好运，希望我会钓大鱼回来，真的钓到了，超开心的！
第一次出海就有这样的收获，好想再去。













早上出门前就交待说不能带电话，不能带mp3
只能带相机
还要看着我穿3件衣服
我已经穿了t-shirt，牛仔裤
老公要我加多一件sweater再加一件hoodie再加一件雨衣
整个人很象肉粽

我们钓鱼回来就一起准备晚餐给大家吃
我们两个分工合作，他清理鱼，我料理鳕鱼
他烧烤mackarel,我拿一条鳕鱼起肉，煮姜葱鳕鱼
骨头和鱼头加姜拿来熬汤，
熬好的汤加入芹菜，红萝卜，番茄

这里的人很浪费
吃鱼都是去骨，起肉
身体和鱼头丢掉
所以那天是他们第一次喝鱼汤
本来老公和家翁不敢喝，怕腥
但是尝试了一口就把整碗喝完了
家婆不怎么喜欢吃鱼，所以今天我煮的食物他没尝
她比较喜欢吃鸡。

家翁和老公很享受今天的晚餐
鱼非常的新鲜，mackarel非常多汁，香甜
鳕鱼也很不错
今天吃鱼，喝汤就饱的吃不下别的了

老公昨天就去上班了
又要分开一段时间
还好这次只有一个星期，因为老公请假来陪我

这里的日子不错
老公和他家人都很疼我，关心我
美中不足的是到现在还没找到工作，还有，非常想念孩子

有人问当人家的太太和当人家的女友有什么不同？

其实除了一张证书外，其余的是心态问题
很多人会觉得，结了婚，
什么都不同了
其实，我认为，也是我在实行中的，心态，等都尽量维持在拍拖时一样
少给他压力，多给他空间
不要因为你是他老婆你就认为你吃定他了
不要因为结了婚，上了岸就把自己的外貌，修养，社交圈等忽列了
多关心他，满足他大男人的心态，让他知道你很爱他
同时也让他知道你行情不差
要有自己的朋友，自己的社交圈
不要不全部时间，精力花在他身上

明天是我第一次跟老公和他的朋友出海钓鱼
明天也是我第一次在公海钓鱼
为了明天，今天早上老公带我到港口挖虫
明天可以拿来做鱼饵
第一次做那么恶心的东西
今天的天气非常好，太阳很勤劳
晒到我和老公满头大汗
穿着雨鞋，等着退潮，然后老公拿铲子挖，然后我就要帮忙捉那些很恶心的虫

回到家后，洗个澡，换了衣服又出门了
今天是他的侄儿的生日party,我们出门去买礼物
然后去喝下午茶，晚上吃了晚餐就出席他们的bonfire party
现在，外面正热闹，我却在这里
感觉很孤独，不认识小姑的朋友，没人主动跟我说话
一大堆小鬼跑来跑去，在那里鬼叫
我想明年我的生日应该也很孤独。
如果老公有工作的话，我一定哭死
就算老公没上班，也只有我们两个一起，好单调
希望我的社交圈子会扩大

两个人在一起，多少会有意见不和
很多东西我又不怎样会表达
发现我在文笔上表达比我在言语上顺畅
或许不用面对面吧！

来这里后，我发现我的情绪很不稳定
动不动就发脾气
跟老公闹变扭
我不想的，真的
但是没有工作，一个人在这里，基本该得到的也没被照料到
难免彷徨，老是质疑老公对我的爱
那个大木头又是一块不能雕的木头
真的把自己气到吐血！

当我生气时，
气生得快，去得也快
有时候真得哭笑不得
自己被老公惹到发脾气
但是老公完全不知道为什么我生气，难过
有时候，觉得生他的气，真的很白费力气
我跟老公说‘你真的不知道为什么我生气吗？’
他说‘不知道’
我说‘真得觉得很无力，我很象白生气了’
他说‘我也觉你生气很莫名其妙’
无力中。。。。。。

前天跟老公去钓鱼
走了很多烂泥巴路
结果滑到了，还伤到了背部，脸也被树干划到了几横
或许是鞋子滑吧！
今天穿了同样的雨鞋去钓鱼
发现鞋子底下好象有东西，原来老公默默地帮我加了一些螺丝，制造多点friction，就不会那么容易跌倒
他做了这些事，我完全不知道
真得非常感动
我跌倒的时候，他只是问我还可以走吗？叫我回家要泡个热水澡，也没什么检查我的伤口
那时候我真的很生气也很难过，但是现在觉得很窝心

老公就是这样的一个人
有点害羞，内向，不善于表达自己
说真的，这个家伙超不会表达自己

以前在新国时，我只是说家里的desktop,很慢，loading超久
老公来找我的时候，我在上班，他自己去Sim Lim找零件来加强我的电脑
不要问我他做了什么，我是电脑白吃
我有注意到电脑快了很多，cpu的箱子也是新的，还有cpu的风扇也是新的

我的mp3的earpiece坏了，他会主动买新的

在这里很冷，又常下雨
他就带我去买可以挡风遮雨的风衣

心情不好的时候会拿食物/冰淇淋来安慰我

跟他去钓鱼然后他会去买fish and chips,坐在车里，面向大海两个人在车里share一份fish and chips, 这算是他的一种高赏吧！
因为在这里，river fishing要有angling association的membership，所以我去也不能钓，我只是陪他，在一边看我的书，听歌。他也没有完全冷落我，会偶尔抬起头来，问我闷不闷，给我一个微笑也好，有时候还扮鬼脸。
我很享受那样的宁静，水流的声音，小鸟的叫声，没有都市的吵闹。但是，不喜欢走烂泥路，或者走将近3公里到达要钓鱼的地方，常常还要爬矮篱笆，山玻等，真 的很靠耐力，体力。有时候一天走7，8公里也不稀奇。有时候气温比较低的时候，我会比较冷，尤其是手脚然后胸口会疼，还好老公知道我的问题，会早点收工回 家，然后泡热茶或热可可给我喝。

这两个星期的星期四晚上，他会载我到市区，因为我参加了织毛衣俱乐部，有很多太太们，都是过了25岁的，每个星期四都会聚在一间餐厅，喝茶，聊天，织毛衣。
他们有些有事业，有些是家庭主妇。共同的嗜好都是织毛衣。有些是为了老公的工作而搬来这里居住的法国人，美国人，也有澳洲人，当然也有本地人。
老公会把送我到餐厅门口，然后他会去听那些我听不懂的concert,等到10点，老公会来接我要不然就是在餐厅附近见面，因为他怕我迷路。

本来今晚老公要带他父母和我出外用餐的，但是因为家公不舒服，早上医生来过，所以让他在家休息。这里的医药服务真没话说，医疗保健是免费，家公因为有小儿麻痹症，而且又是退休人士，行动不方便，医生上门复诊是常事。

看家翁家婆的生活真的很单调。每天都在家，出门的话就是去看医生（两位老的），去超市（家婆），去市区找朋友喝茶聊天（家婆）。家公行动不方便，出门需要有人载，还好老公很乖，前几天天气好待他父亲去兜风，上山看风景，还看到了鹿。